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Mar. 11th, 2010 01:02 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kittydesadeThings to remember, in no particular order:
1. Yes, it is okay for you to occasionally say no when you are out of cope or strength or energy. You are not a bad person to say, I can't handle this right now and bad things will happen if I try. Overreaching leads to worse things, generally speaking. Say 'no, I cannot do this' in a rational manner before you explode in an irrational one.
2. Know when to say when, and pay a-bloody-ttention. Just because you feel like you're coping with extra responsibilities, sudden tragedies or potential catastrophes, or any other major shift in your life right now does not mean you are coping as well as you think you are. If you start realizing you're reacting a little strongly to something you didn't used to last week? Stop right there and think about why. Don't let it get out of hand or escalate.
3. Meditation is, sometimes, your friend. It might be a good idea to get into the habit again. Ahem ahem.
4. Just because you made all these mistakes doesn't mean that you can't fix them, or that you're a bad person and deserve to be punished. You will make mistakes. Your job is not to punish yourself but rather to learn from your mistakes and not make them again. Forgive yourself, fix the mistakes as best you can, and don't do it again.
4b. More often than not, punishment is a losing game anyway. Is punishment productive in this instance? No? Then don't worry about punishing yourself (or the offender!) and worry about making the consequences of that mistake productive of some good.
5. Remember to breathe, to laugh, to rest, to learn, and to love. All of these are good.
6. Ragabash.
7. It is not shameful to ask for help. Repeat after me. It is not shameful to ask for help. It is not shameful to ask for help. It is not shameful to ask for help. Just because you want to look like Superwoman in physical terms of muscle and tone does not mean you have to be perfect. Just because you are a priestess doesn't mean you have to be one to everyone all the time. Just because you are X doesn't mean you have to be X all the time. It is not shameful to ask for help. See #1.
8. Remember that you are loved. If you doubt this, ask. Pretty much there are always people around who will remind you. With frying pans, if necessary.
9. You are capable of far more than you think you are. That doesn't mean you should try to force yourself. Do the best you can with what you have. You might be surprised how far it goes. Then remember to rest. See above.
10. Squirrels.
1. Yes, it is okay for you to occasionally say no when you are out of cope or strength or energy. You are not a bad person to say, I can't handle this right now and bad things will happen if I try. Overreaching leads to worse things, generally speaking. Say 'no, I cannot do this' in a rational manner before you explode in an irrational one.
2. Know when to say when, and pay a-bloody-ttention. Just because you feel like you're coping with extra responsibilities, sudden tragedies or potential catastrophes, or any other major shift in your life right now does not mean you are coping as well as you think you are. If you start realizing you're reacting a little strongly to something you didn't used to last week? Stop right there and think about why. Don't let it get out of hand or escalate.
3. Meditation is, sometimes, your friend. It might be a good idea to get into the habit again. Ahem ahem.
4. Just because you made all these mistakes doesn't mean that you can't fix them, or that you're a bad person and deserve to be punished. You will make mistakes. Your job is not to punish yourself but rather to learn from your mistakes and not make them again. Forgive yourself, fix the mistakes as best you can, and don't do it again.
4b. More often than not, punishment is a losing game anyway. Is punishment productive in this instance? No? Then don't worry about punishing yourself (or the offender!) and worry about making the consequences of that mistake productive of some good.
5. Remember to breathe, to laugh, to rest, to learn, and to love. All of these are good.
6. Ragabash.
7. It is not shameful to ask for help. Repeat after me. It is not shameful to ask for help. It is not shameful to ask for help. It is not shameful to ask for help. Just because you want to look like Superwoman in physical terms of muscle and tone does not mean you have to be perfect. Just because you are a priestess doesn't mean you have to be one to everyone all the time. Just because you are X doesn't mean you have to be X all the time. It is not shameful to ask for help. See #1.
8. Remember that you are loved. If you doubt this, ask. Pretty much there are always people around who will remind you. With frying pans, if necessary.
9. You are capable of far more than you think you are. That doesn't mean you should try to force yourself. Do the best you can with what you have. You might be surprised how far it goes. Then remember to rest. See above.
10. Squirrels.